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Reframing Your Beliefs to Defeat Self Doubt

2014 March 3
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Don’t pretend to be what you’re not, instead, pretend to be what you want to be, it is not pretence, it is a journey to self realization. ~Michael Bassey Johnson

Reframe Your Beliefs Ready to banish a few self defeating doubts? This is the 3rd in our series of articles on identifying and removing self doubt and limiting internal beliefs that show up in our lives as resistance triggers.

To understand how we manage to conjure up pesky self doubt and internal limiting beliefs we have to first become clear about our stories.

Humans are by nature narrators and some of the very best stories we tell are those we tell about ourselves – to ourselves.

There are past stories about your childhood, your college sweetheart, your first job and the first time you got dumped. There are stories of all shapes and sizes about who you are now, wife/husband, father/mother, daughter, manager, employee and the flat you got on the freeway the other day, not to mention all the people in your life. Then of course there are the stories you weave about your plans for the future. read more…

Recognizing Emotional Resistance Triggers

2014 February 26
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by Marquita Herald

You’ve only got three choices in life: Give up, give in, or give it all you’ve got. ~Author Unknown

Resistance to changeThere are basically two kinds of change – the unexpected kind that happens to you, and the intentional kind that you initiate to improve your life.

But regardless of the source, one thing changes of all shapes and sizes have in common is that how you react to the event will be based on the attitude you bring to the process.

You can meet change with protest and resistance or with acceptance and grace … the choice is yours to make.

Last week I introduced the topic of acknowledging our resistance to change. Whether there is reluctance to face any change, or just in certain areas of your life, only by recognizing resistance for what it is can you then identify the cause and ultimately reframe or remove the stumbling block or trigger. read more…

3 Steps to Overcome Resistance to Change

2014 February 20
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by Marquita Herald

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another. ~Anatole France

Resistance to changeHow do you usually respond to change? Do you welcome the opportunity for growth and new experiences, or are you usually dragged into a new environment kicking and screaming?

If you’re like most people your initial attitude will depend at least in part on whether the change is your idea or is unplanned and being thrust upon you. Either way, if your natural inclination is to avoid change your reaction to the process will be the same – resistance.

This article is the first in a series of three where I’m going to share with you the steps that will enable you to effectively push through resistance to change. read more…

Reimagining Your Life Filled With Possibilities

2014 February 11
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by Marquita Herald

Reimagining your life is about removing preconceived limitations and opening yourself to a whole new world of possibilities …

Reimagining Your LifeChange is a funny thing. Sometimes it’s thrust upon you, and other times you crave it like an itch that won’t go away. When this happens a life that used to be comfortable no longer seems to fit, like a coat that’s grown too small and you keep stretching and pulling trying to make room and find comfort that just won’t come.

The lack of certainty can make this a confusing and frustrating time, especially if to all outward appearances there’s absolutely nothing “wrong” with your life. And yet, the itch persists.

Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death. ~Anaïs Nin

This internal call for change goes beyond just a simple tweak here and there … it’s reimagining parts (or all) of your life in a way that opens the door to a whole new world of possibilities. read more…