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Life Balance – Living the Dream

2012 December 24

Life Balance is not about better time management, it’s about making better choices.  ~M. Herald

life balanceThere is no question, the dream of a “balanced life” remains alive and kicking in our society today.

The problem is, while we continue to hold the vague notion of achieving greater harmony in life close to our hearts, seldom do we give it a second thought as we go about our days making choice after choice that, for better or worse, affect our lives.

In fact, rarely do we even take the time to become clear about what a balanced life might look like. The challenge is, even if we managed to come up with a definition, there really is no one-size-fits-all formula to help us achieve it, because we all have different priorities and lead diverse lives.

So where do you begin to define the right life balance for you? Since you represent the foundation, the heart of your unique life balance formula, it makes sense that the first step to finding balance should be to develop a greater understanding of just who you are, your true self – and with that – determine what matters most to you.

How well do you know yourself, really? Do you have clearly defined priorities, or do you allow yourself to bend with each new outside pressure? What do you long for, what is missing in your life? Are you making the intentional choices each day aimed at helping you to achieve greater balance in your life?

Few things define our lives more than the choices we make each day.

Our choices can move us to achieving success or failure; bring us happiness or heartache, fulfillment or regret.

When we think of choices, we tend to focus on the “big” decisions: who to date, who to marry, the right job, car, apartment, house or vacation. But in reality, the picture is made up of millions of small pieces. Every choice we make, no matter how small, is part of a continuum of choices that directly impact our world, and often those around us.

To have the ability to make choices is an enormous responsibility, as well as a great power.  There are many who play the blame game for things that happen to them in life. Others simply call it bad luck.

Whatever you call it, there are moments in all our lives when we find ourselves at a crossroads. The choices we make in those moments can define the rest of our days. Many, when faced with the unknown, prefer to turn around and go back, because it is so much easier to “go with the flow” of whatever happens to come our way in life.

To live a more fulfilling, balanced life requires that we first define what that means to us, and then have the courage to become more choice-conscious. Begin today to accept that each choice carries its’ own baggage…once you buy it, it has to be paid for, lugged, stored, lived with, and hopefully, celebrated. Choices are never lost. You own them.

Every Choice Counts

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11 Responses
  1. December 29, 2012

    Hi Marty,

    Good post to get people to begin thinking. I think that life balance is something that many people strive for, yet it seems elusive to them. I also think that just when one begins to feel as though it is “in balance,” something happens to throw it off. Some folks continue their pursuit of balance, some throw in the towel, and some never bother with life balance at all.

    Life balance is not a permanent or absolute state. As you state, it is a matter of choices…where one decides to make continuous choices to achieve personal fulfillment. It is dynamic and elusive. Even though absolute balance may be impossible, the good news is that we can become aware of where our life is imbalanced and make choices toward improving it.
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  2. December 29, 2012

    You have got me thinking, Marty. Our life is nothing but the result of the choices we have made at some or the other point.

  3. December 28, 2012

    Let us not make our lives contaminated by wrong decisions in life that will eat up those times that should be meant for building with happy memories with family and friend. I totally agree with all these. Thanks a lot! :D
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  4. December 28, 2012

    Hi Marquita:

    I love your opening quote! I absolutely agree. Our choices are indeed powerful.

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  5. December 28, 2012

    Living the dream comes with the choices we make in the past. It is very important to lead a life seeing the future at hand. Thanks for giving great insights about this, I realized a lot of things I never thought I would.

  6. December 27, 2012

    Hi Marty,

    Congratulations once again on the contest win. Your site is certainly one I enjoy coming back to again and again. I really enjoyed the video and your message today. We can certainly make any choice we want at any point of time to change the way our life will unfold.

    I needed to hear that today, thanks,

    Beth :)
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  7. December 27, 2012

    Hey Marty!

    Great food for thought! I find that the big choices we make in life, tend to take a lot of consideration. But to be mindful of each little choice we make during the day, does have an impact on our lives and those around us.

    I must admit that there are times I go with the flow, because I’m in a lazy mood, or just plain tired. But to be mindful of this is very important. We make choices every day. Take for example food. Because of high cholesterol, I need to eat oatmeal every day. Now, you must understand that I absolutely dislike that texture and no matter what I put in it, it is always unpleasant. But, I make the choice each day to eat it, no matter what! A small choice, but one that is good for my body.

    I also take time during the day to meditate or pray. That can be a difficult task because “I’m too busy!” he he But I do it anyway.

    There is also those small random acts of kindness. I can be in a supermarket and notice those around me. I may help someone if the occasion arises and take time out to just smile or help.

    Now, where I live, I do have snow. When I shovel, I make a path to my neighbor’s house and to their stairs. They do have a service that does that but, the man comes too late. They are a sickly couple and I always think that if they needed to get out of their home, they would need a clear pathway.

    These are some examples of choices we make that may not seem to make a big difference in our business or life, but I consider them to be so important.

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  8. December 27, 2012

    Hello, Marty!
    I agree with everything you included here, but the very thing that made me nod with utmost confirmation is the part that says it is all about making the right choices. Piling up wrong decisions in life will definitely hinder us from living the dream of having life balance. This blog of yours help me understand so many things. Thanks a lot! Kudos, Marty! :)

  9. December 27, 2012


    Your post points to a challenge I’ve faced, and I would venture to say others’ have too, ever since I took up personal development and self improvement. That being how to focus on all that I know to be and do as I plow through my days of stress and chaos? It truly is a balancing act and a matter of choice.

    “Delicious ambiguity” – what a wonderful juxtaposition of unlikely opposites. Yet, it fuels the very essence of what makes up the human experience. There is no way to know, only choices to be made.


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  10. Steve Borgman
    December 25, 2012

    Marty, great job on the video! I loved it. One of my favorite quotes was Steven Covey reminding us that we can, with a smile, say no to a lot of things, because we have a burning Yes inside our hearts for the values and priorities we have chosen.

  11. December 24, 2012

    Hi Marty,

    thanks for yet another inspirational post.

    Yes, each choice is as you say “no matter how small, is part of a continuum of choices that directly impact our world, and often those around us.”

    Not choosing is choosing too.

    What helps me is to remember that all we can do is our best and that there are no wrong choices.

    Thank you for you post and lovely video.

    Love and Light

    Merry Christmas from New Zealand
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