Need a Confidence Boost? Take Time to Appreciate Just How Awesome You Really Are!
Send to KindleLet today be the day you stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others. ~ Steve Marabo
Self-confidence is a trait we tend to associate with strength, success and unfailing tenacity.
And while it can be all of those things, it’s also pretty fragile and the smallest thing can boost it or snuff it out in a moment.
This doesn’t just apply to us mere mortals … even the richest, most accomplished and successful people in the world occasionally suffer periods of self-doubt and insecurity.
Now there are plenty of tips and tricks I could list here for short term confidence and self-esteem boosters, but I think sometimes we become so caught up in the pursuit of change and self-improvement we end up completely ignoring all of the awesome qualities that already exist within us.
So, let me ask you a question; just between us …
When was the last time you took the time to appreciate yourself for who you are right now? When was the last time you took the time to think about what you’ve accomplished – big or small – in the last month or year, maybe even dared to give yourself a little pat on the back?
I know for some people this is really difficult, and there are even those who feel any focus on ‘self’ is feeding the ego.
The true value of appreciating yourself is that when you put your attention on you in an authentic way, everything in your life that is important to you—your work, relationships and goals—flows from there with a sense of ease, joy and, most important, love.
Here are a few things to appreciate about you to get you started:
- You intentionally learn new things which help you grow and contribute to the world.
- You bounce back from bad days and disappointments.
- You do what’s right for you, even if it’s not easy to say no to other people (and even if you occasionally people please).
- You choose to be around people who make you feel good about yourself.
- You work toward goals that make you feel passionate and purposeful.
- You have good intentions.
- You accept people for who they are and try to keep an open mind.
- You listen to people when they need an ear.
- You’re compassionate toward other people.
- You forgive people when they make mistakes, even if sometimes it’s hard.
- You let other people know that you appreciate them for who they are.
- You help other people reach their potential.
- You’re honest with people, even if sometimes vulnerability feels scary.
- You genuinely care about your work, and you do it passionately.
- You recycle to preserve our natural resources.
- You give back, whether that means volunteering, donating old clothes, or simply helping a stranger in need.
- You share your knowledge and experience with someone every day, whether you realize it or not.
- You are trust-worthy.
- You’re a hottie – no seriously. Look in the mirror and smile … not one of those half-hearted shy smiles. Really let your light shine! See! I told you so!
- You have a great laugh and you love to make others laugh along with you.
What can you add to this list?
The best way to find peace and self-confidence is to learn to love yourself for who you are … all your weaknesses, marvelous quirks and awesome strengths.
Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you. ~Dr. Seuss
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We just need to love ourselves because God made is all perfectly. It just got to happen that we came in varied packages.
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One of the most effective way of boosting one’s self-esteem is by regularly facing the wall at least once a week. As you do it, try to converse with yourself and start to reflect what you’ve accomplished and your about to be accomplished.
Hi! Marquita,
Wonderful!Beautiful article with excellent tips. We need to learn to luv ourselves before we say I luv you to others.
Welcome and thanks for sharing your thoughts – so glad you enjoyed the article!
Hi Marty, what an awesome article! It’s so important to learn to appreciate yourself and all of your unique gifts. Your empowering list is a great reminder to do this and to have self confidence. Thanks for sharing more inspiration.
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Shelley
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Thanks Shelley, so glad you enjoyed the article and found it inspirational
Hi Marty,
Yes self confidence has a profound effect on how we not only view ourselves but also those around us.
Self- confidence like many things in life is a mind set we need to exercise daily.
I loved your list and will use it to remind me when I need a boost that ‘I am fearfully and wonderfully made’.
Thanks for sharing it with us
Hello Marquita
Self confidence is something many people look forward to build up within their personalities. Appreciating how awesome you are works well in building self confidence because like attacks like. Sonya Friedman, the former host of the CNN program, “Sonya Live,” guest columnist and author of several New York Times best-sellers, says, “The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.” When experiencing a drop in self confidence I remind my self of this, “You are amazing! God did not create anyone else like you in the entire world. It’s important to understand that you bring something to the table that no one else can bring…and that’s you.”
Thanks
Perry A Davis Jr
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This one is so empowering, because it’s true–in my quest for self-development, and my understanding of need for a good, positive self-talk, I still find myself focusing on my weaknesses, inadequacies and lack of accomplishment. Thanks for sharing..
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Appreciating ourselves is so important and you have provided a great list to get us started. This one is so empowering, because it’s true–in my quest for self-development, and my understanding of need for a good, positive self-talk, I still find myself focusing on my weaknesses, inadequacies and lack of accomplishment.
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Self-confidence is something people never realize that it can be seen. The way you way, act, and talk show what type of person you are. A lot of it is based on your decision to be positive rather than negative.
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Hi Marquita, I love this list. There are great reminders here to reinforce ourselves. When I read “you’re a hottie” I cracked up. At my age, I still like to “dress up” from a new hairdoo, to mani-pedi’s, to very high heels. Of course it is age appropriate, but I can still rock it. I feel like a “hottie” when I’m dressed up like that and it is a great boost of confidence. I guess the dress-up part of me will never die.
I like to do something extravagant once and a while for myself, like spend the day at the spa in a seaweed wrap. Or some other girly thing I usually won’t do. That’s how I feel rewarded and confident.
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Awesome post as usual,
Donna
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I’m pretty self-confident, but I do forget to pat myself on the back for things I have achieved. I always look forward to things I’m doing or going to do. I need to take a minute to concentrate on, and relish in the things I have already done.
Thanks for this reminder. I needed it.
I’ve added your site on my blogroll so my readers can pop by and get some of what you do. Thank you.
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Hi Anne, thanks so much for contributing to the conversation and for the honor of adding me to your blogroll! I don’t have a formal blogroll, but I do have a Favorite Links page and I’ve added your site. Anyone who follows my blog knows I’m a fan of quotes, and you always share quotes that express such insight and inspiration.
Thank you, Marty. That’s so very kind of you. I do appreciate it.
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Hi Marty,
Thank you very much , it is very important that we value ourselves to have a good quality of life. The points that I really like is about having the right people surrounding us and being part of our lives. I really do enjoy your tips and advice . Rosemary
Hi Rosemary, thanks very much for sharing your thoughts and contributing to the conversation. Always appreciated.
Hi Marty, this is a wonderful list, you certainly made me smile and feel good about myself, as I read it all. This is different from the suggestion to write a list about what we are grateful for, that kind of list works also. However, it doesn\’t give us self confidence. Thanks Marty! Regards from Julieanne
Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts Julieanne. You are so right, life really is a balancing act, huh? Sometimes it reminds me of golf – seems like just as you get your long game (outside world) wired, the short game (us) falls short
Thank you for your inspirational lists there Marquita! It’s very important to appreciate ourselves first before turning to other people. Let’s nurture what we have inside and we will see a good result in the end
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Welcome back Stevie and thanks for contributing to the conversation – always appreciated!
Hey Marty,
Loved it!!!
In this industry we are all encouraged to take a path of continuous growth and self development. While I maintain that one’s own consistent personal growth is necessary to obtain and sustain success I also have to agree with you that we need to appreciate who we are now, right at this very moment, and be thankful for all that we are and all that we have.
What a great and inspiring article Marty, … thanks so much for sharing.
Kevin
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Hi Keven, so glad you enjoyed the article. I think ultimately the point is that every part of us makes up the whole of a fulfilled life – you can’t focus only on self, anymore than you can focus on the outside world and expect to be truly happy. Thanks!
Thank you for this comprehensive list, Marquita! Gratitude is important in my life as well. This reminder to believe in ourselves is inspirational.
Welcome Harriett and thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts! You are so right about the importance of gratitude in our lives. With the hectic world we live in it’s just so easy to lose sight of the important things in life. Thanks!
Wonderful post, Marty. The first thing that came to mind was Jesus’ teaching about “love your neighbor as you love yourself.” Notice, he said “AS” . . . not “more than”. The lesson here, I believe, is that we cannot begin to love others to any level of depth unless we love ourselves first. That’s not narcissism. It’s simply acceptance of who we are as a part of the whole of creation.
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Welcome back Steve and thank you so much for taking the time to contribute to the conversation. I always appreciate your inspiring insights
You make the most awesome lists, Marty! This one is so empowering, because it’s true–in my quest for self-development, and my understanding of need for a good, positive self-talk, I still find myself focusing on my weaknesses, inadequacies and lack of accomplishment. I’m making a point each day of writing down only what I HAVE done, and sending it to my accountability partner/mentor. It’s so tempting to make excuses and chastise myself, but that goes nowhere. Writing down what I DID do helps me to catch a glimpse of the person you’ve described in your list. All of us need to focus on that, until we see far more than a mere glimpse!
Willena Flewelling
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Hi Willena, so glad you enjoyed the article … and the list
Yes, it is true … I do love lists! In fact I have one I’ve been working on for next week you may like. Thanks for taking the time to contribute to the conversation – always appreciate your special insights.
Hi Marty,
another inspiring post. Thank you.
We can always count on finding some upliftment when we come to your blog.
It is good to know that even successful people struggle with confidence at times.
Appreciating ourselves is so important and you have provided a great list to get us started.
Much appreciated, Marquitta!
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Welcome back Yorinda, and thanks for contributing to the conversation! So glad you enjoyed the article and really appreciate your insightful thoughts
We could all use a dose of this…we are our own worst critics!
Hey Tom … you are so right. Everyone can occasionally use a little self nurturing!